Success doesn’t happen overnight. It’s more than likely going to require a few false starts. You have to be willing to commit to starting over again and again to reach your goals.
Starting Over with Your Goals | Why You Quit
I don’t know you, but I’m willing to gamble that this is how you typically set goals:
Gets inspiration. Googles ALL the things. Buys ALL the things. Watch other people crush their goals. Gets anxious. Accepts that you’re not ready yet. Decides to start another time. Who do you think you are to do something so bold anway, right?
I’d also be willing to bet that if it’s that easy for you to quit, this mindset presents itself in other areas of your life as well.
Do you give the silent treatment to your partner when he/she opposes your views? Do you stop going to the gym because you can't tolerate the soreness? Do you abandon your budget the moment you get in your feelings?
How many times have you changed your mind about changing your life? Each time you decide to say ‘yes’ to your insecurities, fears or ego, you are saying ‘no’ to changing your life. Imagine how much further along your life, business or relationships would be if you decided that quitting wasn’t an option.
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Why we start over
That anxiousness you feel when you are about to quit your goals is your insecurity getting triggered. There could be a number of reasons why that’s happening; here are just a few:
- You underestimated the amount of work required to achieve your goal.
- You overestimated your commitment to the goal
- You’re surrounded by low-standard people
- You forgot that you didn’t always know what you know now
Starting over is okay
Many of the people you admire aren’t successful by accident. Yes, they have their talents and their gifts. But they’ve also mastered the art of starting over with their goals. You only see the tip of their iceberg. They rarely show the moments when they’ve had to pivot or start over with their goals. It may not feel like it now, but starting over can be the greatest gift to your growth and success if done right.
Starting over without a plan is not okay
You are setting yourself up for failure if you think you can just keep doing the same things over and over again and get a new result. That’s a complete waste of your time. I’m not in the business of wasting my time. Neither are you. The more time you spend attempting to solve the problem your old way, the longer it will take you to get there.
Objectively review your failures
When we perceive an experience as a failure, it’s incredibly difficult to discern the lesson without experiencing the feelings. Here’s how to do it:
- Recall the event as if you’re witnessing it. Pretend you’re just a stranger in the room, silently observing everything play out.
- As you are recalling it, tell yourself “I am more than this moment.”
- Examine the contributing factors that you had control over
- Remember that as a stranger observing, you can’t know anything about what you were feeling
Create a better action plan
Use the lessons you’ve learned and allow them to guide you through your next action plan. Now you have data points and better directions. You’re also more equipped to take on this journey. If you need to take a break to center yourself before you start again, then do so. You may not see the results, but that doesn’t mean you’re not succeeding. Under the surface of those feelings, you are creating a woman who’s stronger and more resilient. Create an action plan that sets her free.
Your message matters. What you have to offer to the world matters. Don’t attach yourself to the channel in which you share it. If you have to start over, don’t abandon the message. Just change the channel.
So if you hear me telling you that you can expect to have to start over, then what are you going to do to ensure that you don’t quit?