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It’s Time to Enter Your Villain Era (and stop people pleasing)

October 23, 2024

Hey there, fellow recovering people-pleasers! Have you ever felt like you were stuck in an endless loop of trying to make everyone else happy while neglecting your own needs? If so, welcome to the club— we’ve been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. But guess what? It’s time to ditch the doormat persona. That’s […]

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Hey there, fellow recovering people-pleasers! Have you ever felt like you were stuck in an endless loop of trying to make everyone else happy while neglecting your own needs? If so, welcome to the club— we've been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt. But guess what? It's time to ditch the doormat persona. That's right —it's time to enter your villain era and put an end to people pleasing. So grab your metaphorical cape and twirl it like you mean it, because we're about to embark on a journey of self-discovery, self-love, and unapologetic badassery.

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Embrace Your Inner Villain

First things first, it's time to channel your inner Maleficent and embrace your inner villain. No more playing nice, no more trying to please everyone else—this is your time to shine. Embrace your flaws, your quirks, and your imperfections, and wear them like a badge of honor. After all, who wants to be a bland, cookie-cutter hero when you can be a fierce, fabulous villain?

Set Boundaries Like a Boss

Ah, boundaries—the magical force field that protects your time, energy, and sanity. If you've been a chronic people-pleaser, chances are your boundaries resemble Swiss cheese: full of holes and easily trampled on. But fear not! Villains don't take crap from anyone, and neither should you. It's time to set some boundaries and let the world know that you mean business. Whether it's saying “no” to that extra workload, shutting down toxic relationships, or reclaiming your personal space, don't be afraid to assert yourself and protect your precious time and energy. Remember, boundaries are your best defense against the forces of people-pleasing.

Embrace the Art of Saying “No”

Ah, the sweet, sweet sound of “no.” It's time to make it your new best friend. Practice saying “no” with confidence and conviction, whether it's declining that last-minute favor, turning down that social obligation, or refusing to be guilt-tripped into doing something you don't want to do. Trust me, it's empowering AF, and the more you do it, the easier it gets.

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Prioritize Self-Love and Self-Care

Villains may be notorious for their wicked deeds, but even they need a little TLC now and then. Make self-love and self-care a non-negotiable part of your daily routine, whether it's taking a short walk to clear your head, treating yourself to a decadent dessert, or simply taking a few moments to bask in your own awesomeness. Remember, you can't pour from an empty glass, so take care of yourself first and foremost.

Surround Yourself with Fellow Villains (aka reformed people pleasers)

They say you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with, so why not surround yourself with people who stand up for themselves? Seek out friends, mentors, or role models who aren't afraid to shake things up, break the rules, and march to the beat of their own drum. Together, you can conquer the world—and maybe even take over the universe.

Conclusion: It's Time to Enter Your Villain Era

So there you have it! This has been crash course in entering your villain era and breaking free from the shackles of people-pleasing. It won't be easy, and you'll undoubtedly face resistance along the way, but trust me—it's worth it. The world may not be ready for you, but that's their problem, not yours. Embrace your villainy, embrace your power. If putting an end to people pleasing makes you a villain, then it's good to be bad!

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